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> Subject: Fwd: Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column: Are American
> Husbands Slackers?
> Date: Thu, 23 Mar 2006 22:55:24 -0500
>
> I URGE EVERYONE HERE TO CONTACT THEIR LOCAL LAWMAKER TO EXPRESS
> SUPPORT FOR PASSING BILL A00330.
>
> This bill establishes a presumption of shared parenting of minor
> children in matrimonial proceedings. This bill will have a positive
> and substantial effect on society and remedy the terrible gender bias
> now present in most custodial determinations. Our children need this
> bill.
>
> Regards, Stu Meltzer, Esq.
>
> ______________________________________________________________________
> From: Jeffrey Rosner
> To: Stu Meltzer
> Subject: Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column: Are American
> Husbands Slackers?
> Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2006 06:11:15 -0500
>
>
> Jeffrey Rosner
> Seren Funding Corp.
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> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Glenn Sacks
> To: jeffrosner-at-optonline.net
> Sent: Tuesday, March 21, 2006 5:06 AM
> Subject: [Norton AntiSpam] Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column:
> Are American Husbands Slackers?
>
>
>
> Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New
> Column:
> Are American Husbands Slackers?
>
> March 21, 2006
>
>
> Round 2 of Shared Parenting
> Campaign--Fill in Fax Form Now!
>
> New York's Shared Parenting Bill
> has reached a critical point and
> we're giving the bill a strong push
> forward. Nearly 3,000 of you have
> used our form to email the members
> of the Assembly's Children &
> Families Committee in support of
> A330. Now I want you to use our
> quick, easy form to fax the members
> as well--click here.
>
> The vote on the bill is set for
> March 28. According to the
> Coalition of Fathers and Families
> New York, who are sponsoring the
> bill, your efforts along with
> theirs in New York have had a big
> effect on the committee members.
> Fax the committee members with your
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>
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> fatherhood. Attorneys' groups, such
> as the Legal Project and the
> Women's Bar Association of New
> York, and feminists, including the
> New York Chapter of the National
> Organization for Women, are
> fighting this bill. These special
> interests have successfully blocked
> shared parenting efforts in New
> York for over 25 years.
>
> To support the bill, click here.
>
>
> March 25 NYC Rally for Shared
> Parenting Bill
>
> This Saturday (March 25) New York
> shared parenting advocates will be
> holding a rally in New York City.
> The rally will be held in
> Manhattan, outside the Children's
> Zoo, on 5th Ave at 64th Street,
> from 12 noon to 4 pm. For more
> information, write to FaFNY
> activist Debbie Fellows at
> dafellows2001-at-yahoo.com.
>
>
> The American Coalition for Fathers
> and Children
> The American Coalition for Fathers
> and Children is dedicated to
> creating a family law system which
> promotes equal rights for all
> parties affected by divorce.
> Contact the ACFC at 1-800-978-3237
> or visit them on the web at
> www.acfc.org.
>
> Lisa Scott Launches
> RealFamilyLaw.com
> Shared Parenting Advocate/Family
> Law Attorney Lisa Scott has just
> launched www.RealFamilyLaw.com to
> expose the truth about what is
> happening in our family law system.
> Lisa, the all-time leader in
> appearances on His Side with Glenn
> Sacks, says that she was "tired of
> having her stuff rejected by
> elitist bar publications and
> politically-correct newspapers" and
> decided to start her own website.
> www.RealFamilyLaw.com
>
>
> Glenn Quoted, Misquoted by
> Knight-Ridder/Tribune News Service
>
> I was quoted (and misquoted) in the
> Knight-Ridder/Tribune News Service
> article Women outdo men in
> graduations, which appeared in the
> Orlando Sentinel, the San Jose
> Mercury News, and other newspapers
> last week. The article says:
>
> "Women are smarter than men.
>
> "That's one possible conclusion you
> can draw from a study released
> Wednesday by UCF's Institute for
> Diversity and Ethics in Sport.
>
> "The study, which examined the
> graduation rates for teams headed
> to the NCAA men's and women's
> basketball tournaments, shows that
> women's basketball players do far
> better academically than men's
> basketball players.
>
> "Ninety-five percent of the women's
> teams graduated half of their
> players. Only 64 percent of the
> men's teams did the same."
>
> The article quotes and paraphrases
> me as follows:
>
> "Even [Sacks] acknowledges that the
> male basketball players should take
> their classwork more seriously.
>
> "Most of the guys hope for or
> expect a multimillion-dollar NBA
> payday after they leave school.
> Therefore, they spend more time on
> basketball than schoolwork.
>
> "Then there's something else: what
> Sacks calls the 'Bill Buckner
> Syndrome,' the desire not to screw
> up on the court. Sacks said that
> male basketball players are more
> likely to work harder on their
> games than women because men
> generally play in front of larger
> audiences.
>
> "'If one of these male players
> screw up in a major way, you'll
> screw up in front of millions of
> people,' Sacks said. 'That'll get
> you to focus on your game in a
> major way.'"
>
> In the interview I gave several
> reasons for the women's better
> academic performance among top
> athletes. For one, there's simple
> economics. In general, economics
> dictates human behavior. While it
> would be nice if the
> student-athletes focused on their
> studies instead of sports, a top
> male college basketball player is
> not far away from earning millions
> of dollars as an NBA player. Many
> others are close enough to think
> they will, and others have at least
> an outside shot. In this situation,
> it makes economic sense to focus on
> basketball, not school. One can
> always go back and take Western
> Civ. or Biology, but opportunities
> to become a professional athlete
> are precious and rare.
>
> It is true that some of the top
> women players will go on to the
> WNBA, where they'll make some
> money. However, it's nothing like
> the future earning potential that
> the men have.
>
> Another reason is distractions.
> Male athletes are heroes who
> receive press attention and
> adulation. Because there is less
> interest in women's sports, women
> athletes receive far less.
>
> And of course, there's the issue of
> attention from the opposite sex. I
> doubt that being an accomplished
> athlete does much to effect a
> college woman's chance of
> attracting members of the opposite
> sex. It's not difficult for
> college-age women anyway.
>
> On the other hand, for young men
> and their voracious sex drives, the
> girls are a huge distraction. And
> it's not hard for a young athlete
> to figure out that it's the
> athletes, not the good students,
> who get the girls.
>
> I also pointed out to the reporter
> that there's probably more
> competition for the men's athletic
> slots. I would imagine that the
> starting center for a major men's
> college basketball team has had to
> beat out more competition than the
> starting center for the women's
> team.
>
> I also believe the "Bill Buckner"
> factor--the fear of being
> embarrassed in front of millions of
> people in a highly publicized,
> televised athletic
> competition--also spurs athletes to
> do their best.
>
> (Bill Buckner was the Red Sox first
> baseman who let a groundball go
> through his legs in the 6th game of
> the 1986 World Series against the
> Mets, allowing the Mets to win the
> game and, a day later, the series.
> Buckner has always been the
> standard for "goat." I'd feel sorry
> for him, except that throughout his
> career he was always badly
> overrated, so I always viewed his
> series humiliation as simply
> evening things out).
>
>
> Athletics and Embarrassment
>
> Don't underestimate the motivation
> provided by fear of embarrassment,
> even in what might look in
> retrospect like a trivial
> situation. Obviously I'm not one
> who fears fear public
> embarrassment, but I do recall a
> couple incidents from my childhood.
>
> In one, I guess I must have been
> about 11. Our baseball team made
> the playoffs and was advancing, but
> at this point we were facing sudden
> death elimination. We're in the
> last inning (can't remember if we
> played 7 innings or 9), we're down
> by two runs with one out, bases
> loaded, I'm up.
>
> The game had gone on a long time
> and the sun was setting, so
> visibility was really bad. A kid
> named Tom or Tim Marino was
> pitching and throwing what seemed
> to be very hard. I could barely see
> the ball. It was just a Little
> League or Pony League game but it
> seemed that everyone was watching
> and it's a big deal. My
> overwhelming obsession as I come to
> the plate? Not making a fool of
> myself.
>
> I was a pretty good hitter--I hit
> over .300 with good power, and
> batted fifth or sixth on a good
> team. But this time I felt
> completely helpless. He threw me
> the first two pitches and I swung
> at both, each time missing by what
> seemed like a foot. I remember
> stepping out of the box and
> thinking "dammit, I'm going to
> strike out in a key situation and
> make a fool of myself." I took a
> deep breath--"please just connect
> with the ball, please." I looked
> out at the pitcher and squinted and
> said to myself--"please just throw
> the damn thing wherever it is I'm
> swinging, please just hit my bat."
>
> The next pitch comes and I connect,
> hitting a comebacker right at the
> pitcher. He throws home for the
> force-out and I'm on first base,
> unbelievably relieved. The effect
> of what I did was no better than a
> strikeout--it's bases loaded, two
> out either way--but I feel a weight
> lifted off my shoulders. I can now
> actually think about the game
> again.
>
> The next batter, a kid named John
> Shea or O'Shea, smashes a hard line
> drive to left. I jump up, thinking
> I could score from first on the hit
> and we win the game. Except the
> shortstop is playing deep and the
> ball is hit right at him and he
> catches it--game over, season over.
>
> I'm disappointed, but as I walked
> off the field I thought to myself
> "at least I didn't strike out..."
>
> I remember another time I was
> playing goalie for our soccer team
> and it was a tremendously rainy day
> but for some reason we were playing
> anyway. The parents abandoned
> watching from the sidelines but
> instead all sat in their cars in
> the parking lot right behind our
> goal.
>
> The game was tied and time was
> running out. The other side came
> down the field and centered the
> ball, where it stopped dead in the
> middle of a puddle about two feet
> from our goal. There was a big
> group of guys hacking away at it,
> trying to either score or clear the
> ball out.
>
> Suddenly the ball squirted out
> towards the goal, I dove for it,
> some kid stepped on my leg, I got
> the ball but only after it had
> crossed the goal line. So I laid
> there, shooting pain in my leg,
> partially wrapped up in the net,
> wet, cold, muddy, and defeated,
> looking back up into the bright
> headlights of all those cars as
> their horns blared loudly in
> celebration of their triumph and
> our defeat.
>
> As I've raised my now teenaged son
> I've thought back on these
> experiences from time to time and
> asked myself if I benefited from
> them and if he would. Proponents
> of kids' sports would argue that
> experiences like this build
> character and teach kids how to
> lose and how to come back from
> losing. Opponents would say the
> emphasis on competition can
> traumatize kids who aren't old
> enough or mature enough to deal
> with it. Overall I'd say there's
> plenty of truth in both, but as for
> me, I'd go with the former. I mean,
> after some of my experiences
> playing sports, getting chewed out
> on the O'Reilly Factor in front of
> three million people was no big
> deal...
>
> I suppose it also depends on where
> you are in the sports hierarchy. I
> probably was lucky in this regard.
> Exceptional child athletes are
> privileged in many, many ways, but
> their success also puts them under
> a lot of pressure and scrutiny,
> too. Being a bad athlete can also
> be traumatic. When I played
> baseball and soccer I was usually
> somewhere between average and good,
> maybe the 5th or 6th best player on
> a team of 15, which was probably
> the most comfortable place to be.
>
> Of course, even a player in my
> position sometimes has pressure put
> on them. I had good power and hit
> some long balls, including a
> homerun over the fence in dead
> center and a ground rule
> double--very, very long balls for a
> kid that age. So one of my coaches
> put his arm around me and said
> "this is our power hitter--he's
> going to hit some loooong homeruns
> for us this year." So I started
> swinging real hard to hit the
> homeruns the coach told me I should
> be hitting and hit about .190 the
> rest of the season...
>
>
> Glenn Misquoted?
>
> When the reporter contacted me and
> explained that the story was about
> male athletes not doing as well in
> school as their female
> counterparts, I said "and you've
> contacted me because you know I'm a
> knee jerk defender of men who will
> make excuses for their behavior, no
> matter how stupid, lazy or
> inexcusable." Obviously I was
> joking. So the reporter wrote
> "Glenn Sacks calls himself 'a
> knee-jerk defender of men,'" and
> now it's in major newspapers like I
> was serious. Sigh...
>
> I suppose it's another example of
> my oft-stated axiom for dealing
> with media--expect little, and
> don't be surprised when you get
> even less.
>
>
> College Athletics
>
> One of the biggest concerns for
> male college athletes is the
> feminist-inspired interpretation of
> Title IX that has led to the
> destruction of hundreds of men's
> athletic teams. In my column Title
> IX Lawsuits are Endangering Men's
> College Sports (Los Angeles Daily
> News, 9/7/01) I wrote:
>
> "In one of UCLA's proudest moments,
> UCLA-trained swimmers and gymnasts
> dominated the 1984 Summer Olympics.
> Half of the gold-medal winning
> men's gymnastic team were Bruins.
> Yet, despite producing 22 Olympic
> swimming competitors and dozens of
> world-class gymnasts, these UCLA
> men's teams were eliminated less
> than a decade later. In fact, over
> the past five years more than 350
> men's collegiate athletic teams
> have been eliminated nationwide,
> and the number of men's gymnastics
> teams has fallen from 200 to just
> 21. What happened?
>
> "These athletic programs were not
> felled by mismanagement, drugs, or
> rules violations. They were
> destroyed by something far more
> dangerous than a triple full twist
> off the parallel bars or a reverse
> three and a half somersaults dive.
> They were destroyed by Title IX.
>
> "Title IX of the Education
> Amendments Act of 1972 barred sex
> discrimination in any educational
> program or activity which receives
> federal funding. In the decades
> since, women's athletics have
> burgeoned in high schools and
> colleges. Title IX was and remains
> an important and laudable victory
> for the women's movement.
>
> "More recently, however, misguided
> feminist lawsuits and political
> lobbying have changed Title IX from
> a vehicle to open up opportunities
> for women to a scorched earth
> policy whereby the destruction of
> men's athletics has become an
> acceptable substitute for
> strengthening women's athletics."
>
>
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> New Column: Are American Husbands
> Slackers?
>
> My latest co-authored column, Are
> American Husbands Slackers?
> (Fredericksburg Free Lance-Star,
> 3/19/06), discusses the assertions
> being made in the wake of Betty
> Friedan's death that while career
> opportunities have opened up for
> women, these careers are being
> undermined by women's
> disproportionate household
> obligations. The column looks at
> the relevant research to determine
> whether men are doing their fair
> share in their households. Family
> law attorney Jeff Leving and I
> wrote:
>
> "Feminists' persistent criticism of
> men has combined with women's
> traditional expectations of their
> husbands to place men in a double
> bind. A man may be a devoted
> caretaker of his children or a
> talented cook, but if he is unable
> to provide for his family, he is
> not respected. Yet when a man works
> long hours to fulfill the
> breadwinner role which he is still
> expected to perform, he is blamed
> for not contributing as much at
> home as his wife does."
>
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> childhood, parents as well as
> children need a place of refuge and
> support to "see above" and to
> navigate what has been termed "high
> conflict" divorce. Tree House
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> evolving resource that is designed
> to meet both the emotional and the
> informational needs of parents who
> are going through divorce, as well
> as those who are divorced but still
> experience challenges in shared
> parenting with their former
> spouses.
> www.treehousesolutions.org
>
>
> Want to Give Good Morning America's
> Manbashing a Hot Welcome?
>
> From Good Morning America's
> website:
>
> "March 20, 2006 -- In 1979,
> homemaker Terry Martin Hekker
> stirred controversy with her book,
> Ever Since Adam and Eve, which
> celebrated stay-at-home wives and
> mothers.
>
> "On Jan. 1, Hekker again created
> headlines with a column in The New
> York Times announcing that after 40
> years of marriage, her husband
> asked for a divorce to be with a
> younger woman. 'He got to take his
> girlfriend to Cancun, while I got
> to sell my engagement ring to pay
> the roofer,' she wrote.
>
> "Have you been through a similar
> situation? Have you thought about
> what you'll do to support yourself
> if your partner ever leaves you?
>
> "Tell your story by filling out the
> form below. You may be contacted by
> Good Morning America for a future
> segment."
>
> Last month I countered Hekker's
> manbashing in my co-authored column
> The Rise in 'Gray Divorce': It's
> Always Hubby's Fault (Houston
> Chronicle, 2/18/06). I wrote:
>
> "This 'Pin the Blame on the
> Husband' is unfair. For one, the
> stereotype of the husband trading
> in his wife for a younger model is
> by and large a myth. The women in
> the American Association of Retired
> Persons study were 60% more likely
> to claim that they ended their
> marriages than the men were, and
> men were almost twice as likely as
> women to say that they never saw
> their divorces coming. In contrast
> to the Porsche and trophy wife
> stereotype, the AARP study found
> that these divorced men had many
> serious concerns, high among them
> their fear of losing touch with
> their children after their
> divorces...
>
> "Though nobody says it, 'dumped for
> a younger woman' is sometimes just
> a woman's cop-out for not taking
> responsibility for her own
> contribution to the marital
> breakdown. Hekker says her
> ex-husband spent 16 pages of his
> divorce papers 'meticulously
> detailing my faults and flaws.' Yet
> the New York Times' editors didn't
> ask her to devote a single one of
> her 1,600+ words towards giving the
> reader a clue as to what her
> ex-husband's feelings and
> complaints might be.
>
> "Given the way the media is
> portraying gray divorce on both
> sides of the Pacific, this is no
> surprise."
>
> I suggest you leave ABC with some
> choice words or simply copy and
> paste my Houston Chroniclecolumn in
> the emailing to them. Perhaps
> they'll allow the male side of the
> story to be heard. To respond to
> ABC, click here.
>
> Help, Resources for Dads
> The National Fathers' Resource
> Center is a division of Fathers For
> Equal Rights, Inc. (FER), located
> in Dallas, Texas, with offices in
> both Dallas and Houston. In
> existence for over three decades,
> it has services and resources for
> dads nationwide and is one of the
> largest and most active fathers'
> rights organizations in the U.S.
> www.fathers4kids.org
>
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>
> Attorney Criticizes Glenn, Says Low
> Income Dads Can Pay Child Support
> but Waste Money on Themselves
> Instead
>
> Michael E. Young, Esq. the author
> of The Art of Divorce, is unhappy
> over my co-authored column Kansas
> License Bill Unfair to Noncustodial
> Parents (Wichita Eagle, 3/8/06).
> Young retorts in Driver's License
> Bill is Not Unfair to Noncustodial
> Parents as follows:
>
> "Attorney Jeffrey Leving and
> columnist Glenn Sacks contend that
> a Kansas bill that will take away
> driver's licenses from 'deadbeat
> parents' who owe more than $500 in
> support arrearages is 'unfair'
> because it disproportionately
> affects the poor.
>
> "However, they ignore that many
> parents below the poverty line have
> the money to pay support but spend
> it instead on different priorities.
> Time and again, funds that should
> go to child support are spent
> instead on $60 hairstylist bills,
> $90 premium cable TV bills, $100 in
> new clothes, $300 for a New Year's
> Eve bash, $1,000 for a weekend trip
> to Las Vegas, a new car, etc. by
> the 'poor.'"
>
> I guess Young is smarter than I
> am--I didn't realize that the
> roofers, maintenance men and day
> laborers who populate the "Top 10
> Most Wanted Deadbeat Parents" lists
> put out by most states were
> spending $60 on hair stylists.
>
> Young continues:
>
> "Rich or poor, the duty to support
> one's children exists. Leving and
> Sacks miss the boat by carving out
> an exception based on income."
>
> I agree that regardless of income,
> parents have a duty to support
> their children, though that support
> also very much includes the
> emotional support which divorced
> dads so often aren't allowed to
> give. But I'm not "carving out an
> exception based on income"--child
> support is supposed to be based on
> income. The issue with many
> so-called "deadbeats" is not that
> they won't pay but that they are
> being asked to pay amounts which
> are well beyond what's affordable
> with their incomes. And when they
> are unable to pay, the system
> cripples them further by seizing
> their driver's licenses, jailing
> them, etc.
>
> To share your opinion of this issue
> on Young's blog, click here. To
> write to Young, click here.
>
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> War Veterans Return Home To Custody
> Battles
>
> I've covered the custody problems
> faced by deployed service personnel
> on many occasions. According to
> this piece on KMBC TV in Kansas
> City:
>
> "Two local women are fighting to
> get their children back after
> serving their country overseas,
> KMBC's Bev Chapman reported.
>
> "When Dena Stephenson went off to
> war, her 6-year-old daughter,
> Kristina, went to stay with her
> father. Stephenson followed the
> military's Family Care Plan, which
> gave temporary power of attorney
> and guardianship of her child.
>
> "'Once I came back from deployment,
> naturally, my child wanted to be
> with me nonstop,' Stephenson said.
>
> "Stephenson said she was supposed
> to get Kristina back when she
> returned home, but now the girl's
> father is asking for 50-50 custody.
>
> "'I don't agree with that as a
> parenting plan. I don't think it's
> healthy for the child and I've
> already missed a year of her life,'
> Stephenson said. 'It hurts me that
> he's trying to do this, and in the
> long run, I think it's going to
> hurt her, too.'
>
> "Regina Ellis is going through a
> similar experience. She was
> deployed overseas for a year, and
> she also followed the Family Care
> Plan. Now that she's back, Ellis
> has lost custody of her son,
> Trevor.
>
> "This month, her ex-husband gained
> full-time custody, and Ellis said
> she sees Trevor only every other
> weekend.
>
> "'It's not just us and it's not
> just the Army and it's not just
> females -- this is military-wide,
> and it hurts,' Ellis said."
>
> I often hear from deployed
> servicemembers--some of them
> female--who are facing these
> problems, and I sympathize. In this
> case, however, I sympathize with
> only one of the two ladies
> involved. In the case of Regina
> Ellis, where her ex-husband has won
> sole custody of their son and she
> can only see him every other
> weekend, I think it's an outrageous
> injustice.
>
> In the Dena Stephenson case,
> however, I see no injustice except
> the one she is trying to perpetrate
> against her ex-husband. Her
> ex-husband parented their 6
> year-old daughter full-time while
> Stephenson was away, and now that
> she has returned he has offered her
> 50-50 custody. She should recognize
> that this is best for the child,
> and acknowledge how fair and
> reasonable her ex-husband is being.
> Instead she is demanding sole
> custody and, playing the victim,
> says "It hurts me that he's trying
> to do this." In other words, he's
> been raising their daughter
> full-time but now that the child's
> "real" parent is back the girl's
> bond with her father is of little
> or no import. As for dad, he can
> kiss his parenthood goodbye and
> settle for the every other weekend
> visitation shaft.
>
> I wish I could set up two legal
> assistance funds here---one for
> Regina Ellis, the other for Dena
> Stephenson's ex-husband.
>
> To learn more about this issue, see
> my co-authored column Laws Must
> Protect the Rights of Military
> Dads (Army Times, Marine Corps
> Times, 3/28/05), and listen to the
> His Side with Glenn Sacks show Two
> Years into Iraq War, Little Has
> Been Done to Protect the Rights of
> Military Fathers (3/13/05).
>
> To read about recent legislative
> victories for military parents in
> California and Michigan, click here
> and here.
>
> Online Support for Men Going
> Through Divorce
> Don't feel isolated, frightened,
> confused or alone when going
> through your divorce. Get the help
> and support you need without
> leaving your home at the Ottawa
> Divorce Forums.
> www.OttawaDivorce.com/forum/
>
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>
> Man-Bashing on College Campuses
>
> A reader sent me this clip from
> "The Family Guy" which illustrates
> the man-bashing and anti-male
> hysteria prevalent on our college
> campuses today. To watch, click
> here.
>
> I detailed my sentiments about the
> way male college students are
> treated in my column Why Males
> Don't Go to College (She Thinks,
> 11/13/02). I also criticized
> "feminist academics [female and
> male] who poured their derision
> upon college men, knowing that
> their students could not
> effectively fight back," and "timid
> male professors who were so content
> with their own careers that they
> were perfectly willing to allow 18
> year-old boys to be beat up on
> rather than jeopardize their own
> comfort by speaking out."
>
> How Does Sex Discrimination Affect
> Men and Boys?
> The National Coalition of Free Men
> is a non-profit educational & civil
> rights organization that looks at
> the ways sex discrimination affects
> men and boys. NCFM helps provide
> men a unified voice on important
> political and social issues.
> www.NCFM.org
>
> Help for Boston Dads
> Boston family law attorney Nick
> Palermo is a shared custody
> advocate who believes that divorced
> dads are parents, not visitors. The
> Law Offices of Nicholas Palermo is
> a dedicated and committed trial law
> firm which has worked to make
> shared custody for all fit parents
> the law of the land.
> LAW OFFICES OF NICHOLAS PALERMO
>
>
> Indiana Politician Responds to
> Glenn over 'Deadbeat Dad' Charge
>
> A couple weeks ago I discussed
> Roseland Town Council President
> Dorothy Snyder's decision to run
> for the Indiana state legislature
> on a noncustodial parents' rights
> platform. She decided to run when
> Indiana State Rep. Ryan Dvorak
> proposed a bill which would require
> officeholders who are more than
> $15,000 in arrears to give up their
> offices. Snyder's husband, David
> Snyder, a local councilman, is
> reportedly $90,000 behind in child
> support.
>
> Snyder's candidacy got a lot of
> play and applause on men's and
> fathers' websites and elists. I
> noted that "it would be wrong to
> assume...that David Snyder is a
> deadbeat who abandoned his
> kids...many so-called "deadbeat"
> parents are instead simply dead
> broke or are victims of the
> system." However, I also cautioned
> that "it would also be wrong to
> assume that David Snyder is simply
> a victim of the system. There are
> fathers who behave irresponsibly
> towards their children, and he
> might be one of them. I'd like a
> little more information before we
> all go jumping into bed together."
>
> I guess one of my readers forwarded
> my enewsletter on to Snyder,
> because he contacted me a few days
> later. Snyder wrote:
>
> "Your column came to my attention
> today, and as usual for me when I
> read similar writings my stomach
> begins to churn at the unfairness
> of our current laws and the living
> hell non-custodial parents,
> children, and extended families are
> going through due the thoughtless
> actions of our legislators. You
> fairly reserved judgment in my case
> as I would be wont to do until I
> had heard all sides."
>
> According to Snyder, his child
> support arrearage (which he claims
> is $60,000, not $90,000 as reports
> indicated) was caused by a
> combination of factors which will
> sound familiar to many of the
> divorced dads on this elist. These
> include: child support based on an
> income well beyond what Snyder was
> actually earning; unequal division
> of marital property; legal bills;
> periods of unemployment or
> underemployment; his ex-wife using
> the legal system to tie up and then
> destroy his business; and stiff
> penalties and interest on the
> arrearages. In the middle of all of
> this Snyder says he contracted
> cancer. He also claims that his
> ex-wife alienated his children and
> poisoned them against him.
>
> I have no idea if all of this is
> true. I will say one this--I've
> received thousands of letters from
> fathers telling me the same types
> of stories, so Snyder's claims are
> certainly plausible.
>
> The Rantings of a Single Male:
> Losing Patience with Feminism,
> Political Correctness... and
> Basically Everything describes the
> rise of feminism from the mid '70s
> to the present, through Ellis'
> personal experiences and is loaded
> with outrageous stories.
>
> Legal Help for Fathers
> If you live in Los Angeles,
> Riverside or Orange counties and
> you're facing a divorce,
> separation, or a child custody
> issue, the law firm of Oddenino &
> Gaule can help.
>
>
> Glenn Appears on the Dennis Prager
> Show--Audio Available
>
> I discussed my co-authored column
> The Rise in 'Gray Divorce': It's
> Always Hubby's Fault (Houston
> Chronicle, 2/18/06) on the Dennis
> Prager Show on the Salem Radio
> Network on March 8. The 45 minute
> audio (without commercials) is
> available by clicking here. We
> discussed many of the issues which
> serve to drive husbands and wives
> apart.
>
>
> A Message from FaFNY About the
> Shared Parenting Bill
>
> Debbie Fellows is one of the
> principal activists in the
> Coalition of Fathers and Families
> New York, the New York affiliate of
> the American Coalition for Fathers
> & Children. Debbie, a former NOW
> activist, wrote the letter below to
> pass on to my readers:
>
> "For years we have been fighting an
> unfair war. Some battles won, most
> are lost. A330 is a battle but not
> the war.
>
> "This past week we launched, with
> support from people like Glenn
> Sacks, the campaign in support of
> the bill. The Assembly has received
> over 2,000 letters [now over 2,500]
> in the last week in support of
> shared parenting. Their response to
> us shows that they have been
> listening.
>
> "On March 28 the Children and
> Families Committee will put A330
> up for a vote. The Coalition of
> Fathers and Families of New York
> has been at the capitol in Albany
> daily, working in support of the
> shared parenting bill. In the last
> year we have been on several
> television shows and radio
> broadcasts, and have appeared in
> newspapers many times.
>
> "On Sunday we were on the radio and
> were beat against the wall on this
> subject. The Legal Project and the
> Women's Bar Association of New York
> came on after us and just tore
> shared parenting apart. Their
> misstatements included: '70% of all
> men win custody in contested
> divorces'; 'shared parenting is not
> in the best interest of the child';
> 'children suffer being shifted
> between homes'; 'what about
> domestic violence?'; and '97% of
> custody is giving to the mothers on
> consent of the fathers in
> stipulated agreements.'
>
> "Regarding the stipulated
> agreements, someone called in and
> stated that the fathers'
> stipulations to give up custody
> parallel the 'consent' Sophie gave
> in the movie, Sophie's Choice. Good
> analogy.
>
> "Our opposition knows this bill is
> coming up for a vote and they're
> ready. We have been trying to get
> shared parenting passed for many
> years. At this point we certainly
> aren't going to get everything we
> want. We have to work within the
> realm of the possible, and this
> bill is a start. After this bill
> becomes law we'll work on improving
> it, and we'll work on other areas
> as well."
>
> Again, to support the bill, click
> here.
>
> The Second Wives Club
> The Second Wives Club is what women
> in blended families are looking
> for: Remarriage, divorce, child
> custody, and step parenting
> discussed in a solution-oriented,
> mature, and intelligent way;
> articles and news written by
> thought-provoking experts and
> journalists; personal accounts and
> advice from some of life's most
> interesting women.
> www.SecondWivesClub.com
>
> The Secrets of Happily Married Men
> How can a man achieve a long and
> happy marriage? If you've been
> checking out advice columns or
> seeing a therapist, you may have
> been looking in the wrong place.
> Despite all the advances in brain
> technology, and all of that we have
> learned about developmental
> psychology--men and women are given
> the same advice about solving
> problems. But when we ask men what
> works for them, we hear a different
> story.
> www.SecretsofMarriedMen.com
>
>
> Glenn Appears on ABC's World News
> Tonight
>
> I discussed the new "Roe v. Wade
> for Men" lawsuit and the issue of
> choice for men on ABC's World News
> Tonight on March 9. I appeared
> right after Kim Gandy, president of
> the National Organization for Women
> who, needless to say, is
> pro-choice--but only for women...
>
>
> Glenn Appears on the Mike Gallagher
> Show
>
> I discussed the new "Roe v. Wade
> for Men" lawsuit and the issue of
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